A human being
No instinct tells him what he has to do, and no tradition tells him what he ought to dosays Viktor Frankl in his book: ‚Man’s Search for Meaning’.
And he continues that a human being
sometimes does not even know what he wishes to do. Instead, he either wishes to do what other people do (conformism) or he does what other people wish him to do (totalitarianism).
Now, of course, you as a human being, I as a human being, we have instincts. But we are not limited to our instincts. And of course we have tradition. You have a tradition, you come from a tradition. But you are not limited to your tradition. You actually have: Freedom.
You have the freedom to choose
beyond your instinct, beyond your tradition, beyond your programming, beyond your conditioning, beyond how you were treated as a child, beyond your personal history, and beyond your circumstances.
You always have freedom.
Now with freedom comes suffering. There is no suffering without freedom.
The freedom to choose brings about the suffering that we have to endure. But the beauty is, we can stop the suffering. You are always free. And you can choose to suffer, or not. I wish you the best of luck.